Fighting Amongst Yourself

Have you ever had a fight with yourself? I don’t mean taking yourself by the scruff of the neck and throwing yourself over the back of the sofa, more a fight within the confines of your own mind. I believe the technical term is ‘internal dialogue’, when the exchange is calm and productive, this is more of an ‘internal slanging match’. It’s as though your thoughts suddenly take against each other……

Have you ever had a fight with yourself? I don’t mean taking yourself by the scruff of the neck and throwing yourself over the back of the sofa, more a fight within the confines of your own mind. I believe the technical term is ‘internal dialogue’, when the exchange is calm and productive, this is more of an ‘internal slanging match’. It’s as though your thoughts suddenly take against each other……

Usually it begins with a single, simple phrase that runs through your mind, dragging a negative, but all too willing, emotion along with it

“I can’t do this!”  says the Captain of team doubt, accompanied by Sergeant Anxiety.

“Of course you can, it’s a wonderful opportunity”

The Captain of team positive thinking takes centre stage flanked by a couple of pom pom waving cheer leaders from Camp self-esteem

“I can’t, it’s too much pressure, I know it’s going to be a disaster”

Team doubt have been joined by Fear (always a big player) and a couple of rejects from Camp self-esteem who were kicked out for ‘not playing well with others’.

“We’ve talked about this. You cannot know what will happen; let go of control and just go where life takes you”

cheerleadersTeam positive thinking have recruited self-confidence (who did not come willingly) The cheerleaders are busy chanting motivational quotes and trying to work out how to build a human pyramid with just the two of them.

 

“Oh bugger off you bloody hippy, what do you know about it”

The rejects from Camp self-esteem take this opportunity to wrestle the pom poms from the cheerleaders and start hitting self-confidence over the head with them; not an eager participant in the first place, he makes a run for it.

“I’m you, you blithering idiot!”

At this point both sides will realise what a nonsense their battle really is or they’ll both take serious offence and launch an all out attack on each other, which results in the owner of the warring thoughts having to lie down in a darkened room for a couple of days.

Viewing my inner dialogue scraps like this is the only way that I can keep them from drawing battle lines and really wrecking my life. Today, I enlisted the help of Common Sense who is currently standing in the middle of the two protagonists with his arms folded and a stern ‘don’t mess with me you bastards’ look on his face.

Why is all this necessary? Well, a couple of my closest friends have organised a surprise for me today.

“I don’t like surprises”

“How do you know, you don’t know what it is, that’s the point of surprises”

“Oh, sod off with your bloody logic, I know what I don’t like”

Sorry, guys, I need to go and give Common Sense a hand, they seem to be giving him a wedgie……..

See you later

Lisa x

 

 

Friday Inspiration…

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us”

 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us”

For me, this is one of the most beautiful and powerful quotes out there – thank you Marianne Williamson! I hope that you enjoy the video and that it brings a little something positive to your Friday

Lisa

x

Unleash Your Inner Kid

We had dreams, wonderful dreams, yet over time, we lose them or we push them to the back of our minds because we are persuaded or we choose to believe that they are not possible. Anything is possible!

 

“Just imagine becoming the way you used to be as a very young child, before you understood the meaning of any word, before opinions took over your mind. The real you is loving, joyful, and free. The real you is just like a flower, just like the wind, just like the ocean, just like the sun”   Don Miguel Ruiz

As we get older we start to think more about the meaning of life and why we are here; we try to find a reason for our existence, maybe because we reach a point where we realise that we are not going to go on forever. When you are a child your happiness is more or less effortless; you might cry when you scrape your knee or when you want a sweetie but Mum says no but that’s pretty much the sum total of your stress and worries otherwise you go through life in joyous abandon. Do you remember that? The energy and excitement you felt running towards the swings with your friends and then the freedom you felt when you were swinging as high as you possibly could? There was a little bit of fear because it felt like you could be flung off into the sky at any moment but there was also the excitement of feeling like you could fly! As adults, especially as we get on in years, we forget that that kind of exuberance is possible and we weigh ourselves down with more fears and more worries but why?

Fundamentally our existence is based on what we have experienced in the past and, from this, we then imagine what we may experience in the future. If we perceive our experiences as negative then our imagination of all future experiences will be tainted by that negativity. For instance, if you try a new sport and sustain some sort of injury, you will have a small association with that sport and pain but, if you think more and more of the pain and remember the sport whilst you are thinking about the pain then chances are that’s the end of that sport for you! However, if you remember the fun you were having before you got hurt, you’ll likely brush off the pain and have another go. You then might find that you love the sport and it will become a great part of your life and bring you real happiness; the situation hasn’t changed – you played sport and got hurt – but your perception of it has.

Our mental attitudes shape our lives and some people manage to retain the absolute freedom and happiness that we all had as children because they don’t analyse every situation they find themselves in and they don’t analyse the people that they spend time with. How much time do you spend thinking about what you do before you do it? Do you try to imagine other people’s reactions to what you want to do? All this time that is spent considering possible outcomes could be spent just actually enjoying yourself – in effect you will create time for the things that you enjoy if you stop thinking and just do.

This video sums up absolutely beautifully why it’s so important for us to remember what life was like when we were children.

We had dreams, wonderful dreams, yet over time, we lose them or we push them to the back of our minds because we are persuaded or we choose to believe that they are not possible. Anything is possible!

If you are in your 50’s or 60’s then all of the people shown here are older than you and they all have a few things in common – they don’t think that they have to stop doing what they love just because they’re getting older, they don’t worry about what other people think about them and they haven’t forgotten what it’s like to feel like a child and just take pleasure from what life offers us.

Quite simply, life is short and we never know what tomorrow will bring or even if we will have a tomorrow so why not make the absolute best of what you have today?

Ps. Yes that is me in the picture and yes I was the only adult riding the merry go round – it was great fun :O)