You Guys Rock!

Honestly, I can’t say that enough! The blogging community is such a special group of people; if you need to let your feelings out, if you need to rant, if you need something to make you laugh, it’s all there and it’s wonderful!

Honestly, I can’t say that enough! The blogging community is such a special group of people; if you need to let your feelings out, if you need to rant, if you need something to make you laugh, it’s all there and it’s wonderful! I’ve been helped through many a tough time by my fellow bloggers, they’ve given great advice and support and their posts have inspired, entertained and comforted me. I never thought it could be possible to have friends I’d never met but you guys are proof that I was 100% wrong.

A few days ago I asked people to vote as my poem ‘Promise’ was nominated for publication of the month on Spillwords and, guess what? Thanks to you guys, I won!. Thanks to the kindness in your hearts, for the first time in a long time, I actually feel like I am achieving something again. If I could come and give you all a real hug and my thanks I would but, as it stands, I can only give you virtual hugs:.

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Lend Me Your Ears

If you’re having a bad day what is that you most crave? A hug? A chocolate biscuit? A huge glass of something alcoholic? Or maybe you just want someone to listen while you pour out the details of your crappy day. The problem is that most people don’t actually listen do they? That’s probably why hugs, chocolate biscuits and alcohol were invented in the first place. 

If you’re having a bad day what is that you most crave? A hug? A chocolate biscuit? A huge glass of something alcoholic? Or maybe you just want someone to listen while you pour out the details of your crappy day. The problem is that most people don’t actually listen do they? That’s probably why hugs, chocolate biscuits and alcohol were invented in the first place.

If you think about it, when was the last time that you spoke to someone who just sat patiently before you, a pleasant smile on their face, not saying a word before you’d reached the end of your tale? Isn’t it more the case that, less than 2 minutes in, you’re being given advice about

  • What you should do moving forwards
  • What you did wrong to end up in your current situation
  • What other people did wrong to put you in this situation
  • How too many chocolate biscuits are bad for you
  • The dangers of alcoholism

The end result is that you still have the problem that you arrived with but now you are armed with solutions that are based on someone else’s experiences. This might not be a bad thing if their experiences are identical to your own but how often does that happen?

For the most part people are kind, they want to help when they meet someone in need BUT they can only base their help on their own wants and desires.

For instance, if a very rich businessman met a beggar, he might give him money. The rich man had been born into a poor household and he had spent his formative years watching his parents struggle for every penny; constantly arguing and fighting over money. This man was determined never to suffer like his parents had suffered so he dedicated his life to making a fortune knowing that it would protect him.

giving moneyThe beggar had been born into a life of wealth and privilege and was free to indulge in every kind of excess. He had been brought low by drug addiction, disowned by his family and was now living rough. He didn’t need more money, quite the opposite, he needed a job; through work he could earn his living and take pride in having done so.

Had the rich man stopped and listened to the beggar’s story he would have realised that it was in his power to give him exactly what he needed to resolve his problems. Unfortunately, he didn’t and instead he gave him what he himself had needed. The rich man walked away feeling virtuous and the beggar died of an overdose from drugs bought with the money given to him by the kind stranger.

Giving someone your full attention and really listening to them is a great gift, if they ask for your advice by all means give it but otherwise just lend them your ears…….

Have a great day everyone

Lisa x

 

If That’s All You’ve Got to Worry About..

Morning :O) I’d really like your opinion on something if you’ve got a minute. Do you ever listen to someone telling you about their woes in life and have to stop yourself rolling your eyes at them or sit on your hands so that you’re not tempted to cuff them round the back of their head? Maybe you’re the serene and understanding type that never judges? Either way, what’s your take on this:

Morning :O) If you’ve got a minute, I’d really like your opinion on something. Do you ever listen to someone telling you about their woes in life and have to stop yourself rolling your eyes at them or sit on your hands so that you’re not tempted to cuff them round the back of their head? Maybe you’re the serene and understanding type that never judges? Either way, what’s your take on this:

A woman writing on a popular website for mothers was complaining that her parents always bought her cheap gifts for her birthday and that made her feel ‘not valued’ and ‘hurt’. This was what she wrote:

Cheap gifts

I realise that we can never really know how someone else is feeling and there may be more to this story than meets the eye but my first thought when reading this was “If that’s all you’ve got to worry about, I am so happy for you”.

What do you think?

Lisa

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My Faith Is Restored!

If you’re having the kind of day where you’re wondering if people are all just mean and nasty assholes and the entire human race is doomed to self-destruct under the weight of its prejudice and hatred – have a look at this………

THIS IS WONDERFUL! If you’re having the kind of day where you’re wondering if people are all just mean and nasty assholes and the entire human race is doomed to self-destruct under the weight of its prejudice and hatred – please, have a look at this………

Stumbling across the video this morning and realising that there are kind people out there who are willing to put their own lives at risks to help others (and dogs) has really helped restore my faith in human nature – if you’re having one of those days, I hope it will do the same for you.

Lisa

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