Available on Kindle….

Have you ever experienced something that you know to be real but, somehow, it just doesn’t feel that way? That was how I felt when I received an email this morning which said “Congratulations, your book is now available for purchase on Kindle.”

Have you ever experienced something that you know to be real but, somehow, it just doesn’t feel that way? That was how I felt when I received an email this morning which said “Congratulations, your book is now available for purchase on Kindle.” I’ve had my Kindle for years and it stores around 450 books, all of which I have downloaded and taken great pleasure in reading. The fact that someone may now do with my book is almost unfathomable but it has happened and I think, once the shock has worn off, I will be beyond thrilled.

I joined WP because, frankly, I needed something to do. I needed to busy myself as I tried to settle in a new country and  live with the grief that had crippled me for three years. I figured that I would post something, I’d read other people’s posts and try to learn from them so that I could gather a following; I honestly expected nothing more. What actually happened was that I discovered a community, a real community that exits in harmony because all the members have a common interest – a love of reading and writing. In the ‘real’ world there is so much hatred, bitterness, cynicism – all things that crush self-esteem and make us doubt ourselves at every turn. On WP there is openness, vulnerability, humour, support, honesty and kindness, especially kindness and spending time here restored my faith in human nature.

Beyond that and, arguably less importantly, it gave me the inspiration and courage to write from my heart without fear of derision. The acceptance and encouragement that I have received here on WP opened my mind enough for a book to escape and end up on Kindle. I can’t thank you all enough, sincerely, you have given me a new lease of life which, for a long time, I thought was impossible. There are a few people that I’d like to give special thanks to:

Mike, who asked me to write a synopsis for his book and first made me wonder if I might be able to write a book one day

Peter, who is wise, kind and funny and so positive about life that you can’t help but be swept along

Fandango whose FOWC one word prompts inspired me to start writing short stories – one of them ended up turning into a book

Lorraine, who, despite having her own challenges, is unfailingly kind and generous

Darren, who is one of the first people I connected with on WP and is an all round lovely guy

River, who rekindled my interest in poetry and inspired me to write with an open heart, as he does so well.

Rory, because he puts so much of himself into WP and his openness really inspired me

Brian, simply because he never fails to make me laugh and I’ve needed that (a lot) over the last couple of years

There are so many others – Wendi, Sadje, Billy, Tom, Boo, Deborah, Ivor, Brandi, Mike…..the list just goes on and on and I appreciate every single one of you. You have helped to make a long held dream come true with your support and kindness and I toast all of you with this rather insipid virtual champagne (it’s really not as good as the real thing!)

Lisa x

It’s My Round……

Do you have a local, a bar or a coffee shop where you can walk in and be sure of finding someone that you know? You can sit down for 10 minutes or a couple of hours and just chat with people about anything and nothing. If you’re feeling down they’ll buy you a drink and listen to your woes and you do the same for them if they’re having a rough day. Do you know a place like that?

Do you have a local, a bar or a coffee shop where you can walk in and be sure of finding someone that you know? You can sit down for 10 minutes or a couple of hours and just chat with people about anything and nothing. If you’re feeling down they’ll buy you a drink and listen to your woes and you do the same for them if they’re having a rough day. Do you know a place like that?

For me, that place is here on WP; granted there is no-one serving drinks (something for the marketing department to think about!) but there is everything else that I love about a local. It’s warm and comfortable with a constant stream of chatter and laughter. What makes it even better is that I don’t have to think about what I’m going to wear (be honest haven’t you chatted with your WP buddies in your PJ’s before now) and I have zero social anxiety (always a big plus).

FriendshipIn just a few months I have made friends with people who come into this bar from all over the World, (that’s you guys by the way). You are funny, patient, kind, loving, charming, understanding and completely non-judgmental. You are always there with a comforting word, some wise advice and a virtual hug on the days when I need it most.

I have felt your suffering as you made yourself vulnerable, shared your deepest fears and doubts; at those moments it feels so natural to hold you and tell you that you are loved. I have laughed with you as you recounted hilarious tales about your life. We have even chatted about politics and religion with calm and pleasant interest in each others opinions. You’ve shared poetry which made me weep and verse that filled me with joy.

I have learned from you, each and every one of you so, if you stop by the bar today, I’d like to buy you a drink, give you a hug and say thank you.

Lisa x

Superior?

We humans are an amazing lot really aren’t we? We’ve built machines that allow us to fly like birds, others that allow us to swim under water like dolphins and still more than give us the power to move faster than cheetahs. We believe that we are superior to animals in every way, to the point that we enslave them, devour them or simply watch them for our own amusement.

We humans are an amazing lot really aren’t we? We’ve built machines that allow us to fly like birds, others that allow us to swim under water like dolphins and still more than give us the power to move faster than cheetahs. We believe that we are superior to animals in every way, to the point that we enslave them, devour them or simply watch them for our own amusement.

Maybe our sense of superiority stems from the fact that we have working memories which allow us to learn and therefore develop. Many scientists believe that animals have only short term memories and are therefore unable to retain the information necessary to increase intellectual capacity….

Perhaps we credit our superiority to our emotional capabilities; again, some scientists believe that animals are incapable of experiencing complex emotions such as gratitude or love…….

It could be that we feel that we are at the pinnacle of evolution because we have developed the ability to feel compassion and empathy for others……..

It maybe that we feel superior because we have such a sense of self-awareness: we think therefore we are….

Perhaps we put it all down to our superior intelligence….

What do you think? I’d love to hear from you….

Lisa x

If That’s All You’ve Got to Worry About..

Morning :O) I’d really like your opinion on something if you’ve got a minute. Do you ever listen to someone telling you about their woes in life and have to stop yourself rolling your eyes at them or sit on your hands so that you’re not tempted to cuff them round the back of their head? Maybe you’re the serene and understanding type that never judges? Either way, what’s your take on this:

Morning :O) If you’ve got a minute, I’d really like your opinion on something. Do you ever listen to someone telling you about their woes in life and have to stop yourself rolling your eyes at them or sit on your hands so that you’re not tempted to cuff them round the back of their head? Maybe you’re the serene and understanding type that never judges? Either way, what’s your take on this:

A woman writing on a popular website for mothers was complaining that her parents always bought her cheap gifts for her birthday and that made her feel ‘not valued’ and ‘hurt’. This was what she wrote:

Cheap gifts

I realise that we can never really know how someone else is feeling and there may be more to this story than meets the eye but my first thought when reading this was “If that’s all you’ve got to worry about, I am so happy for you”.

What do you think?

Lisa

x

When the Monkey Mind Stopped Chattering

Being English and naturally somewhat reserved I was suprised to find myself slipping off my flip flops and wandering over…..

‘Just as a monkey swinging through the trees grabs one branch and lets it go only to seize another, so too, that which is called thought, mind or consciousness arises and disappears continually both day and night.’ Buddha

As I said in my last blog post, I am continually on the look out for ways to stop my ‘monkey mind’; when the negative thoughts rough and tumble their way through your brain, disturbing your inner peace – do you know what I mean?

Anyway, last week I was in beautiful Thailand, the home of many a Buddhist monk. I’ve never really had much time for religion as it seems to cause more problems than it solves but I’ve always had a soft spot for Buddhism as it basically seems to involve being nice to other people and not worrying too much about things you can do nothing about. My friend and I took a trip up into the mountains to see the Giant Buddha (which was breathtaking by the way) and there we found a small monestary in which a group of monks were chanting. I had no idea what they were saying but, for some reason, I felt an overwhelming sense of calm whilst listening to them.IMG_5189

When they had finished, several of the locals approached the head monk, kneeled, and asked for a blessing; there was no request for a donation but they willingly handed over a few bhat. Being English and naturally somewhat reserved I was suprised to find myself slipping off my flip flops and wandering over to the monk. I had no idea what, if anything, I was supposed to do but I bowed to him as I’d seen the others do and waited in a slightly uncomfortable, feet shuffling kind of way. He looked up at me and smiled.

His smile was not professional or forced, it was completely naturally and utterly, utterly beautiful. It might sound like a strange thing to say but you could feel peace radiating from the man, as though he were lit up from inside. He gave me a medallion and told me, in broken English, that he wished peace and happiness for me and those close to me; I bowed again, thanked him, and walked away. I was shocked to discover that I was crying and smiling at the same time and, best of all, my inner chattering monkey had completely shut up and had very little to say for the rest of the day…….

 

“OMG Disaster! I broke a nail!

we live within the confines of our imagination

Human beings are wonderful; there is nothing on the planet that quite compares to the marvellous piece of machinery that is the human body. However, the human body comes with the human mind and sometimes it can be a little bit tricky to deal with. Imagination is a great thing; so many amazing inventions, stories and artwork have come into being as a result of human imagination but sometimes and for some people it can create darkness and despair. One negative thought can turn into a full blown disaster in our minds within a matter of minutes and, if we are not careful, the disaster can become our reality.

It seems almost trite these days to say that ‘it could be worse’ but this really is the case. In reality there are always people who will be far worse off than ourselves but we often don’t live in reality; we live within the confines of our imagination and, what is in fact a very small problem can take on enormous proportions. Sometimes we have to bring ourselves back to the real world and realise that what is a problem for us could be a real opportunity for someone else.

For instance, the man in this video is called Nick Vujicic and he is a motivational speaker.

Right now you may have a sprained wrist or perhaps you’ve been unlucky and you’ve broken your leg; Mr Vujicic was born without arms or legs. Despite this or maybe because of it he has found a way to turn his life around and now he spends it helping other people to do the same.

He wasn’t always so positive; at the age of 10 he tried to commit suicide………….

This wonderful young man has no idea how old he is because he was abandoned, along with his brother, in the middle of a war zone when he was a baby. He and his brother also suffer physical disabilities.

All of this has not, however, diminished his beautiful spirit in any way at all. He dreams of being a singer and his song of choice for this audition? Imagine by John Lennon

Last and not least, this video shows that you don’t need to be classically beautiful to be a success in the modelling world. All of the people featured are ‘different’ in some way and they’ve made that something incredibly positive and are now recognised for it.

Next time you look in the mirror, just remember that we are all unique and, because of that, we are all beautiful.