No Excuse

Your body will put certain limitations on you as you get older but nowhere near as many as your mind.

Today is the oldest you have ever been and the youngest you will ever be; wise words indeed. We are all getting older, there’s no getting away from it but that doesn’t mean that we have to conform to society’s ideas of what it is to be ‘middle aged’ or ‘elderly’. It is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking ‘ I can’t do that I’m too old’ or ‘I’m not young enough to wear that, I’d look ridiculous’. Be honest, have you had those thoughts and used them as an excuse not to do something you’d actually quite like to do? Why?

100 year old man skydiveFear of what people will think or your own self imposed limitations? If it’s the former then just bear in mind that you are the only person living your life and you’ll be the only one with regrets at the end of it if you didn’t do all the things you dreamed about when you had the chance.

If its the case that you don’t feel capable, there are things that you can do to make your body healthier and feel younger:

The first and most important is to keep moving; its so easy to feel an ache here or a pain there and think ‘I need to rest’ so you sit down. When you get up again you feel stiff and uncomfortable so you have another rest and start to feel a bit down and worried that you can’t do the things that you used to and so it goes on until your days consists of sleeping or sitting in a chair in front of the TV. 3BF99D8B00000578-0-image-m-11_1483935562948No-one’s suggesting that you go from no exercise to running marathons in a couple of weeks but walking, swimming and yoga or Pilates are all low impact and will keep your body moving and your joints well oiled! On top of that, getting out and trying new things will give you an opportunity to meet new people.

Your body will put certain limitations on you as you get older but nowhere near as many as your mind.  wang-deshunAs Wang Deshun, the 80 year old catwalk model, put it “When you think it’s too late, be careful you don’t let that become your excuse for giving up”. When we are children we don’t really think about risk or possibilities, we assume that everything is possible so we try everything. By the time we reach middle age it’s been ingrained into us that we need to limit what we do; how many times have you heard in your life “help your granddad, he’s too old to be doing that by himself” or “leave grandma alone, she needs to rest”? When you yourself then become a grandpa or granny it’s all too easy to take on that persona because that is the image that’s been created in your mind since you were a child. The fact is it’s impossible to say when someone is ‘middle aged’ because none of us know how long we will live for so don’t let it be barrier between you and the things that you want to achieve – anything is possible whatever your age. As George Bernard Shaw said “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing”

Guilty Until Proven Innocent

I’m not sure what all this means for the future – will it get worse and we’ll have a Lord of the Flies for the internet age?

For people of a certain age, social media is not something that they’ve grown up with and they treat it in the same way as they would have a face to face debate; unfortunately many people have found out, to their cost, that that is far from the reality. Mary Beard, Richard Littlejohn and countless politicians have all been subject to vile abuse for doing nothing more than expressing an opinion which is not ‘politically correct’. Mary, who is a Professor at Cambridge used Twitter to try to start an intellectual debate on whether morality suffers when we are in highly volatile and dangerous situations, such as the Oxfam aid workers often find themselves. She was quite clear that she did not approve of the alleged actions of the people involved and did refer to Lord of the Flies as the basis of her musings on the subject. I imagine it’s the sort of question she would regularly pose to her peers and her students, taking pleasure from the, no doubt, lively debate that followed.

Unfortunately for her she forgot or didn’t realise that Twitter is not the place for reasonable debate and a particularly nasty few who reside there went after her with both barrels leaving her distraught. She was accused of being a pervert, an ‘absolute f***ing monster’, a racist and a colonialist in the space of a few hours. I doubt that any of those who posted those messages to her would have said the same thing were they face to face with her but, for someone who spent a greater part of their life only talking face to face or on the phone I would imagine it was frightening and intimidating experience.

She then tried to express in a very natural and human way that she had been hurt and upset by the comments made; she posted a photo of herself thereby attempting to regain the ‘face to face’ familiarity and her friends and supporters immediately rallied round her offering words of comfort.

Twitter can be a good way to exchange ideas and debate current issues but, if you have anything even remotely controversial to say you’re far less likely to be subject to bullying and aggression if you do it face to face. I’m not sure what all this means for the future – will it get worse and we’ll have a Lord of the Flies for the internet age?

We Are Amazing

it doesn’t matter if you are 50, 60, 70, 80 or older, if you keep your mind and body healthy with the right diet and exercise, you can achieve anything that you want to achieve – it’s just a case of wanting it badly enough.

“Some people are old at 18 and some people are young at 90. Time is a concept that humans created” Yoko Ono

Human beings are incredible, there are no two ways about it; we have mental, emotional and physical capabilities that have the power to astound. Some people show such dogged determination to succeed that we are often overawed by what they achieve. You might think that you have passed the stage in your life when you can realistically hope to achieve something wonderful but you’d be wrong and here’s why:

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This is Mohr-Keet and he was 96 years old when this photo of him bungee jumping from South Africa’s Western Cape when it was taken. The jump which was from 708ft secured him a place in the Guinness Book of Records. Apparently this World War II veteran said that he did the jump for the thrill and to get rid of fear; he believes that you have to do things, to live life

Tao Porchon-lynch will be 99 years old this year and she is still teaching yoga. She says that feeling young and being healthy is everything. In her own words “I never thought anything about age. I believed sincerely and still do, that there’s nothing I cannot do. I believe that all the power in the universe is right inside me”

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These people demonstrate that age really is just a number; it doesn’t matter if you are 50, 60, 70, 80 or older, if you keep your mind and body healthy with the right diet and exercise, you can achieve anything that you want to achieve – it’s just a case of wanting it badly enough.

Back to the Future

It seems as though, in an attempt to ‘free’ women, modern feminists have actually taken us full circle, right back to the Victorian era

The latest catwalk trend looks very familiar doesn’t it? It seems as though we are taking a trip back to the Victorian era when women’s fashions were a direct reflection of the morality of the time; is that what we’re doing now? In the wake of the introduction of political correctness in the 1980’s, moral outrage has gone from being justifiable anger at abhorrent events to a platform that people can use to try to instill fear in those who they see as opposing them. The original feminist movement, for exampVictorian fashionle, freed women from genuine oppression around the time that this dress was in fashion but now it has been hijacked by women who seem to want to subjugate men, thereby putting them in the position that they themselves once fought against, or eradicate them completely.

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Not only that, they seem to want to take away choice; their predecessors worked tirelessly to ensure that all women had the confidence and the freedom to make their own way in life but modern feminists applaud when their ‘sisters’ lose their job of choice. The Formula 1 grid girls are a prime example; they have lost their jobs because modern morality dictates that the clothes they wore were somehow ‘demeaning’ and their presence was ‘at odds with modern day social norms’ . It seems strange that the original feminists struggled for their right to wear whatever they wanted to and wherever they wanted to but modern feminists believe that ‘skimpy’ clothes will ‘objectify women.

It seems as though, in an attempt to ‘free’ women, modern feminists have actually taken us full circle, right back to the Victorian era. I wonder how long it will be before the whole process starts again and whether we will go further down the road of oppression in the name of liberty than the Victorians did………

How Do I Look?

The media tells us all the time that beauty and youth are important and that, as we get older we must, therefore, be losing something important but is that really so?

“My greatest beauty secret is being happy with myself. I don’t use special creams or treatments – I’ll use a little bit of everything. It’s a mistake to think you are what you put on yourself. I believe that a lot of how you look is to do with how you feel about yourself and your life. Happiness is the greatest beauty secret” Tina Turner.

Many people freak out, when they hit a certain age, about what to wear. Why? You’re all grown up, you don’t have to please anyone other than yourself so wear whatever the hell you please, if it’s just a question of age that is. It’s more likely that your body shape has changed and you don’t know how to style it or that you’re not happy with the way that you look and therefore you lack confidence. Really the problems we may think we have with fashion are no different than when we were in our 20’s; how many times did you think (or ask) ‘does my bum look big in this?’ when you were in your 20’s or your 30’s come to that? Very few of us are ever completely happy with the way we look and maybe that’s what we need  to change – our attitude rather than our wardrobe, it would certainly be cheaper.

This is Winnie Harlow and she suffers from a severe form of the skin condition vitiligo. b4b21eebb2a1df3228ff0c2d842e9ea5 (1)

However she is also a model and a brand ambassador for clothing label Desigual.

Some people might have chosen to hide themselves away because they looked different to everyone else but looking different has made Winnie’s career.

What we see in the mirror is not necessarily what everybody else sees so, before you look at the clothes you’re wearing or your make-up really look at you and focus on what makes you special.

What emotions do these two pictures stir in you?e15018d22ddb31681d760c20776bc2c2--beautiful-smile-beautiful-peopleo-ANGRY-facebook One woman is, undoubtedly, old and the other is young and quite beautiful but which image makes you feel good?

If you think about those people that you like to spend time with, those who are closest to you, are they miserable or happy? Kind and considerate or critical and angry? Now think about why those people like to spend time with you……

The media tells us all the time that beauty and youth are important and that, as we get older we must, therefore, be losing something important but is that really so?

The happier we are on the inside the more we will smile, relax and be comfortable in our own skins and the more other people will want to spend time with us – isn’t that a wonderfully simple way to make friends and enjoy life?