Good morning blogging world, I hope that you’re having a great day! I thought I’d share with you a little something and nothing just because I am feeling rather proud about it. Those of you who’ve followed my blog for a while will know that, in the past, I haven’t had an awful lot of self-confidence and found social situations quite challenging; I know that many of you have had the same problem.
Anyway, to get to the point, I joined a social group a couple of years ago but had never attended an event because, quite frankly, I didn’t have the balls. The thought of going somewhere on my own and talking to people I didn’t know scared the bejesus out of me but, last night, all that changed. I received an invitation to go to a ‘red carpet’ evening at a hotel in Monaco and I went! Alone! I dressed up in my best frock, stuck on some high heels, slapped on some make-up and a big smile and entered a room full of people I’d never met.
Within 2 minutes I was chatting away to a lovely woman who I spent most of the evening with, within 15 minutes we were talking to two other ladies (in French which usually doubles the anxiety for me) and it went on from there. I must have spoken to at least a dozen new people! I was even chatted up two or three times and, do you know what, I had no fear……it could have been the couple of glasses of wine but I honestly don’t think so. You know what it feels like to have mad butterflies in your stomach when you’re anxious but I didn’t even have that just a mild sense of anticipation.
So, what changed? Well, one I have been listening to motivational talks on Youtube about self-confidence which have really helped but, more importantly, I suppose I just got sick and tired of hiding from the rest of the World and feeling sad. I decided that, whatever time I have left on this planet, I want to enjoy it, I want to live my life and be happy. Now, I’ve said that, it all seems so simple and I wonder why I’ve waited all this time but, I guess, I just wasn’t ready. I’m ready now, it’s my time to shine and I’m feeling pretty damn good!
Have you ever had a breakthrough moment like that? Please let me know, I’d love to hear from you.
Lisa x
Wow! That’s awesome. I’m glad to know that you finally got over those low confidence issues.
Keep it up 💯😊
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That’s really kind of you – thanks so much :O) x
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You’re welcome 😊
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Well done! Chatted up eh?
We’ve had a lovely relaxing three weeks here, homeward bound on Monday. I’m hating having to get rid of this place for next to nothing and we’re going to have one last visit in September.
Love from us both. xx
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I know! I was shocked!
So glad that you’ve had a great time Dodge and it’s such as shame that it has to go but happy that you’ll get to come back for a final good bye. Hope you see you guys soon – much love to you both xxxx
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Aww that rocks, Lisa. See life does love us we just have to get all the barriers out of the way. Well done you. It made me so happy to read this. xoox
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Yes, I think you’re right Deb, it’s exactly that – if we can tear down the barriers that we create for ourselves we’ll be in a position to accept and embrace what the universe has to offer us :O) xx
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I am exactly the same the amount of fear I carry and self doubt is tremendous that is why I think this was such a victory for you.
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I get it totally but it is possible to let it go and thank you Deb, that means a lot :O) x
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This is awesome and I am so happy for you😍
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I am so proud of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Way to get out there in that big scary world and find out it’s not so big or scary!!
*beams like a proud mum!*
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😂😂 thanks mum 😊 XX
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This is wonderful news Lisa! Congratulations😍😍
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Ah bless you, thanks Darren 😁 XX
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Well done you! xx
We are our own worst enemies aren’t we, and can always find dozens of excuses why we should not do things, or go to places. I think a good idea for most people is to volunteer to do anything! Not only do you get to do new things, meet new people, and widen your general experiences, but you also contribute to society and help others along the way.
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You’re so right Peter! I do like the idea of volunteering, I’ll have to look into that 😊 xx
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Children, and animals don’t judge. However, I chose the elderly!!!!!!!
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Hey Lisa, this is truly excellent news for you, as much as you are proud of yourself l feel proud for you, well done – it’s wonderful isn’t it, when the confidence returns.
Suze has recently had her own confidence return after a dreadful sexual harassment incident in 2015, which happened also when she was just entering post menopause, favourite child left with the grandkids to Australia to live and only son started hating his mother – some fairly hefty blows on her confidence, but she is starting to return to the confident person she once was, and l am proud of her for facing her inner devils and battling them, and trusting in herself again, just as you have – so well done 🙂
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Bless you Rory, I really appreciate that 😊
So sorry for all that Suze has had to contend with but it’s wonderful that she’s coming out the other side, no wonder you’re proud 😊 XX
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Indeedy 🙂 it’s brilliant to see her smile and mean it again.
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Good for you, that’s great to hear!
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Thanks River 😊 XX
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You’re welcome.
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So! The moment you’ve been waiting for has come at last! I’m so happy for you, and I know that with God’s grace, it’ll last!
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Thanks so much Lorna and yes, I think it will last too :O) x
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Wow – what a lovely post! Interesting to see how one small shift in perspective made such a big difference 😀
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I know I seem like a walking contradiction, but as someone who has almost zero self confidence, I have no problem putting myself out there. I don’t know if it would you help you to remember that what you are doing is for YOU. I also remind myself that to date I have somehow survived 100% of my worst days. I’m glad you went and glad you enjoyed yourself!
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Thanks Grace. It’s exactly that that changed my opinions – it’s my life and the only person I have to live it for is me 😊xxx
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Oh am touch by this post. this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.
These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the write up. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with people .
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That’s a lovely post! I am so happy to hear that you could overcome your issues! 😄Looking forward to getting past mine too!🙂
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Thanks so much and I do hope that you get past your issues 😊 x
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You’re welcome!
…yeah! I hope so too!🙂
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How lovely. You should be proud. You are amazing & I know how hard this would have been xxxx
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Ah bless you, thank you sweetie 😊 xx
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Awesome, Lisa, good job! 👏👏👏
I remember going through much the same transition when I was a young man; I was scared to death of unknown social occasions. No one knew it cuz I hid it, but I would avoid them for anxiety reasons. In my twenties I decided to break out of that but it took me a decade of try and try again. Even in my thirties, when I went back to school, I was frightened out of my wits, at first. I kept hammering away and now I’m better known as the guy who won’t shut up most of the time. 😉
We can evolve, and we do. Go get ’em, Lisa!
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That’s wonderful Tom – what a great achievement to go from anxiety to life and soul of the party :O)
You’re so right, it’s only fear that holds us back and that can’t hurt us so evolve I shall ;O) xx
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Of that I have no doubt!
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